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What is . . . Get Off Your Butt and TALK!       

It’s simple . . . A place to talk, listen, learn, give opinions, ask questions or seek advice without judgement! 

Nope . . . I don’t have any advice degrees, or special awards that merit this blog, I’m just someone who can listen, and might even help.  In fact, I don’t want to do it alone.  It takes a Village!

Sometimes . . . I might bring up a certain TOPIC, and your comments will spur topics as well.

Often . . . I’ll just ramble, and you can shout out your thoughts, questions, or advice.

Maybe . . . we could all be of help to one another.

Comment . . . if you dare, and suggest our next TOPIC.

Remember . . . You can post anonymously, if you’d rather not show your name.  That’s perfectly fine.  We welcome singles, husbands, wives, children, grandparents and everyone in between.

The basics: The rules

1. Play nice. I don’t really have to explain this, I hope. Disagreement is fine but unkindness is not. No cheap shots based on gender, race, religion, sexual preference, neighborhood, party affiliation, handedness, reproductive status, social class, body type, occupation, country of origin, or astrological sign, EVER.

2. Keep it clean. No profanity!  I’m not easily offended, personally,  but there’s a place for that kind of thing, and this blog isn’t it.

3. All comments are moderated by me. I’ll disallow anything inappropriate, and I might edit your post if I need to.

4. All comments will be moderated, so please be patient if you don’t see your comment up right away. I’ll get to the moderation queue as fast as I can.

5. All comments will be left open, so you can write or add as much as you like.  Please read comments posted, so that you will be up to date on the Topic.

SO . . . Let’s get started.  Suggest a topic, listen, ask a question, give some helpful advice, and let’s talk!

Let’s start with this topic:  Grandparents raising their grandkids.

Patricia writes:

I would love to talk about grandparents raising their grandkids.
I’m a Nana of 3 babies. I have custody of two of them. The mom and dad are so so in the picture.
I have a tough time with this because I’ve had to put my son second to his kids. Which I guess should happen. But because of the kids’ parents lifestyle, they don’t see them much at all.I’d love to talk with others that may be going through the same thing.

My thoughts:

First let me begin by saying that I think you are awesome!  There are not many in the world who would step up like you have, and love these kids unconditionally.  I myself am a Grandma of six, and love them to pieces, but at the end of the day, it’s nice to be able to kiss them good-bye until the next time. 

I’m not sure how old you are, but at almost 50 years old, I don’t have the energy that I did when I was raising my own children. I think that you are probably much wiser now, then when you were busy raising your own children.  You live . . . You learn! I think If I were starting over, I would possibly do many things differently.

I’m wondering if you have another job outside the home and also, what are the ages of these children?

I do believe that you have angels looking over you, that will give you the strength that you need . . . when you need it most!  

You are certainly in a difficult situation, if the parents of these children are only around when it’s convenient for them.  I do believe that since you have custody of two of them, that your rules and your wishes for them, should come first.  I hope that your son and his wife respect that.  I do admire you!

The bottom line is that your Grandchildren are blameless, and certainly deserve the best.  They are very lucky to have a Grandmother who loves them as you do.

If you are someone out there, who can lend Patricia some well earned advice, please shout out.  We are in this together!